Thursday, February 12, 2026
Narcissism reactions
Why not to engage a narcissist in debate about their behaviour
Ask a Narcissist to explain why they did the hurtful, destructive things they did and they will ALWAYS bring it back to something you said or did (or else failed to say or do).
They will rewrite history in real time. They will nitpick your tone, your timing, your reaction, your silence—anything except their own behavior. Suddenly, their betrayal becomes your "attitude." Their cruelty becomes your "provocation." Their lies become your "lack of trust." This is how they escape accountability: by making you the cause of the harm they chose to inflict.
None of that is true.
The real reason is simple: they are lying, heartless manipulative monsters, with the emotional maturity of a toddler. They lack empathy, not awareness. They knew exactly what they were doing. They saw the impact. They just didn't care—as long as they stayed in control, protected their image, and avoided shame.
A narcissist does not reflect, repair, or take responsibility. They deflect, deny, and distort. They weaponize blame to confuse you, exhaust you, and keep you doubting your own reality. And when confronted, they don't answer the question—you asked why, and they answered with you.
That's not an explanation.
That's manipulation.
Ask a Narcissist to explain why they did the hurtful, destructive things they did and they will ALWAYS bring it back to something you said or did (or else failed to say or do).
They will rewrite history in real time. They will nitpick your tone, your timing, your reaction, your silence—anything except their own behavior. Suddenly, their betrayal becomes your "attitude." Their cruelty becomes your "provocation." Their lies become your "lack of trust." This is how they escape accountability: by making you the cause of the harm they chose to inflict.
None of that is true.
The real reason is simple: they are lying, heartless manipulative monsters, with the emotional maturity of a toddler. They lack empathy, not awareness. They knew exactly what they were doing. They saw the impact. They just didn't care—as long as they stayed in control, protected their image, and avoided shame.
A narcissist does not reflect, repair, or take responsibility. They deflect, deny, and distort. They weaponize blame to confuse you, exhaust you, and keep you doubting your own reality. And when confronted, they don't answer the question—you asked why, and they answered with you.
That's not an explanation.
That's manipulation.
# posted by Groseys messages @ 7:59 AM 
