Thursday, February 12, 2026
Baiting and lies
The Narcissists favorite gaslighting abuse tactic is to set you up to be angry and then shame you for the anger, it's practically a form of entertainment for them.
They provoke you intentionally—through subtle digs, blatant disrespect, lies, or by twisting your words—until you naturally react. Then, the moment you express hurt, frustration, or anger, they flip the script. Suddenly you're "too sensitive," "crazy," "overreacting," or "the problem." What they engineered becomes your fault.
This cycle is designed to destabilize you. First comes the push. Then comes your emotional response. Then comes the blame and humiliation. Over time, this pattern can make you question your own perceptions and feel ashamed for having completely normal reactions to mistreatment. That confusion is not accidental—it's the point.
By making your anger the focus instead of their behavior, they avoid accountability and maintain control. They get to provoke you and then stand back as if they are the calm, rational one while you are painted as unstable. It's manipulation disguised as innocence.
Don't fall for it.
Your anger is not the problem—being repeatedly disrespected is. Healthy people address issues; they don't bait you into emotional reactions just to punish you for having them. Recognizing the pattern is the first step to breaking it. When you see the setup for what it is, you reclaim your clarity, your power, and your peace.
They provoke you intentionally—through subtle digs, blatant disrespect, lies, or by twisting your words—until you naturally react. Then, the moment you express hurt, frustration, or anger, they flip the script. Suddenly you're "too sensitive," "crazy," "overreacting," or "the problem." What they engineered becomes your fault.
This cycle is designed to destabilize you. First comes the push. Then comes your emotional response. Then comes the blame and humiliation. Over time, this pattern can make you question your own perceptions and feel ashamed for having completely normal reactions to mistreatment. That confusion is not accidental—it's the point.
By making your anger the focus instead of their behavior, they avoid accountability and maintain control. They get to provoke you and then stand back as if they are the calm, rational one while you are painted as unstable. It's manipulation disguised as innocence.
Don't fall for it.
Your anger is not the problem—being repeatedly disrespected is. Healthy people address issues; they don't bait you into emotional reactions just to punish you for having them. Recognizing the pattern is the first step to breaking it. When you see the setup for what it is, you reclaim your clarity, your power, and your peace.
# posted by Groseys messages @ 8:00 AM 
