Wednesday, May 13, 2026

 

Pastors Kids

In honor of my dear friend, Evan Roberts Locke or "E-bob" to those of us who knew him well, (inarguably forever my favorite PK of all time.) TEN THINGS EVERY PASTOR'S KID NEEDS: 1. They need parents who are emotionally present, not just physically available. A pastor can be “home” while still carrying the weight of the church in their mind. PKs need moments where mom and dad are fully with them without sermon prep, crisis calls, meetings, or church drama sitting at the table too. 2. They need space for their family to breathe. Sometimes what a pastor’s family needs most is not another conference or leadership push, but margin to be "Normal". Sabbaticals matter. Rest matters. Uninterrupted family seasons matter. So many wounds could be prevented if ministry families had seasons where the shepherd could focus on his own home the way he’s expected to care for everyone else’s. 3. They DON'T need to live in a fishbowl. PKs already know people are watching them. Every outfit, friendship, attitude, mistake, facial expression, and social media post gets overanalyzed. They do not need more commentary. If you wouldn’t say it to your own child, don’t say it about theirs. They need permission to be human. Shut up, in the name of Jesus. 4. Pastors’ kids get tired. Confused. Angry. Discouraged. Hormonal. Awkward. Emotional. **They are not junior staff members or mascots for the church. They are people learning to follow Jesus too.** 5. They don’t HAVE to serve...don't expect that of them...but if they want to, fuel the fire. Forced ministry creates resentment. Genuine calling creates passion. Don’t manipulate them into platform involvement because of their last name. But if they do show hunger for God or desire to serve, encourage them hard and help them grow without exploiting them. 6. They need safe people outside of their parents. Every PK needs trusted adults who are not impressed by ministry titles and are not looking for church gossip. Mentors. Coaches. Youth leaders. Friends. People who love them for who they are, not for access to their family. And people they know they can trust to LISTEN and give wisdom without repeating or leveraging. People like that are few and far between. 7. They need prayer more than your assumptions or "advice." People assume PKs are rebellious. Entitled. Wild. Spiritually mature. Spiritually damaged. The assumptions go both ways. They're stereotypes in country music, tv shows, and jokes for a reason... but, instead of creating narratives about them, pray for them. Quietly. Regularly. Specifically. 8. They need church members to stop weaponizing church conflict around them. Never make a child carry adult bitterness. Don’t dump your offense with the pastor onto the pastor’s kids. Some PKs still remember the names and words of adults who attacked their parents years ago, I know I do...even when they were right about the things they said... they didn't need to be said to me. 9. They need to know they are loved apart from ministry performance. If the only time they receive affirmation is when they sing, preach, serve, smile, or behave perfectly, they start believing love is earned. PKs need to know they matter even when they’re struggling, doubting, grieving, or sitting quietly in the back row. 10. They need a real relationship with Jesus for themselves. Not inherited faith. Not platform faith. Not “my parents are Christians” faith. Real faith. Personal faith. Honest faith. The healthiest PKs are not the ones who perform Christianity the best, they’re the ones who learn that Jesus meets them personally, not just their family publicly.


 

HOW TO LEAVE A LASTING IMPRESSION

The Power Of The Cross   HOW TO LEAVE A LASTING IMPRESSION  Philippians 2:12-26
Some bring joy wherever they go, others whenever they go.
Dave Kraft Biggest Mistakes 
Here is a complete list of all the mistakes:
Allowing ministry to replace Jesus          
Allowing comparing to replace contentment
Allowing pride to replace humility
Allowing pleasing people to replace pleasing God
Allowing busyness to replace visioning
Allowing financial frugality to replace fearless faith
Allowing artificial harmony to replace difficult conflict
Allowing perennially hurting people to replace potential hungry leaders
Allowing information to replace transformation
Allowing control to replace trust
Allowing selfish ambition to replace godly ambition
Allowing reactive to replace proactive
Allowing discouragement to replace dreaming
Allowing teaching to replace training
Allowing tactical to replace strategic
Allowing politics to replace principles
Allowing talking to replace listening
Allowing careless firing to replace careful hiring
Allowing competence to replace character
Allowing pornography to replace purity My biggest mistake was allowing competence to replace character!
 
1. The Problem of Contention
 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.
For all seek their own, not the things which are of Christ Jesus.
Genesis 3:4-7 Then the serpent said to the woman, "You will not surely die.5 For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil." 6 So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate. The Curse  Genesis 3:16 To the woman he said, “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.”  Sin perverts every aspect of life.   Total Depravity  Competition, Subjugation, Domination
Gen 3:17 And to Adam he said, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, ‘You shall not eat of it,’ cursed is the ground because of you; in pain you shall eat of it all the days of your life;
Eccles 2:11 Then I considered all that my hands had done and the toil I had expended in doing it, and behold, all was vanity and a striving after wind, and there was nothing to be gained under the sun.
Its all thorns and thistles! till you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; for you are dust, and to dust you shall return.”
2. The Continuing Power of the Cross
Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus,6 who, being in the form of God, did not consider it robbery to be equal with God,7 but made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men.8 And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross.
The Presence of The King  9 Therefore God also has highly exalted Him and given Him the name which is above every name,10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of those in heaven, and of those on earth, and of those under the earth,11 and that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.  Hold Thou Thy cross  Before my closing eyes   Shine through the gloom and  Point me to the skies  Heaven’s morning breaks  And earth’s vain shadows flee   In life in death O Lord Abide with me
3. Work down what God has worked in!
Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling;13 for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure.
Shalom –Peace in you and around you Do all things without complaining and disputing,15 that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world,
4.The Compelling Witness To The Cross
among whom you shine as lights in the world,16 holding fast the word of life, so that I may rejoice in the day of Christ that I have not run in vain or labored in vain.
5. The Connecting Empathy Of The Cross
19 But I trust in the Lord Jesus to send Timothy to you shortly, that I also may be encouraged when I know your state.20 For I have no one like-minded, who will sincerely care for your state….
22 But you know his proven character, that as a son with his father he served with me in the gospel.
The Cross Produces Friendship and Fellowship in the Work  Yet I considered it necessary to send to you Epaphroditus, my brother, fellow worker, and fellow soldier, but your messenger and the one who ministered to my need; … and hold such men in esteem;30 because for the work of Christ he came close to death, not regarding his life, to supply what was lacking in your service toward me.
John 15: 12  “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. 13  Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command you. 15  No longer do I call you servants, for the servant  does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you.”
Love is Kindness and Caring    1John 3:16 By this we know love, because He laid down His life for us. And we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.17 But whoever has this world's goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of God abide in him? 18 My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth.
6. The Conscious Participation In the Work
so that I may rejoice in the day of Christ that I have not run in vain or labored in vain. 17 Yes, and if I am being poured out as a drink offering on the sacrifice and service of your faith, I am glad and rejoice with you all.18 For the same reason you also be glad and rejoice with me.   Therefore I sent him the more eagerly, that when you see him again you may rejoice, and I may be less sorrowful.
Service, Sacrifice, Self-forgetfulness 29 Receive him therefore in the Lord with all gladness, and hold such men in esteem;30 because for the work of Christ he came close to death, not regarding his life, to supply what was lacking in your service toward me.
I am glad and rejoice with you all. For the same reason you also be glad and rejoice with me.
The Joy of Fulfillment Fellowship   Fruitfulness John 12:24 "Most assuredly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the ground and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it produces much grain.25 He who loves his life will lose it, and he who hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life.26 If anyone serves Me, let him follow Me; and where I am, there My servant will be also. If anyone serves Me, him My Father will honor.


Tuesday, May 12, 2026

 

Deism by Dr.Noel Weekes


 

Chuck Swindoll

In my darkest ministry seasons, when unexpected and seemingly unfair blows left me feeling afflicted, confused, persecuted, and rejected, two profound truths became my anchor of stability. Like holding firmly to the mast in a violent storm, these principles kept me from becoming bitter as the wild waves of difficulty continued to crash around me. Truth One: Divine Sovereignty Nothing touches you that has not passed through the hands of your heavenly Father. Nothing. Whatever occurs in your life today, remember: God has sovereignly surveyed and approved it (Job 2:3-6). We may never understand why, but our pain is no accident to Him who guides our journey. Before any trial ever reaches you, it passes through Him first. Truth Two: Purposeful Pain Everything you endure is designed to prepare you for serving others more effectively. Everything. Your current struggle isn't meaningless. Our heavenly Father, committed to shaping us into Christ's image, knows the ultimate value of these painful experiences (2 Corinthians 1:3-7). Each trial empties our hands of self-sufficiency and turns us back to the faithful Provider. These principles transformed my journey through ministry's storms. I encourage you to: Write them where you'll see them daily 1. Commit them to memory 2. Hold tightly to them when the seas of difficulty rise 3. The day will come when you'll be thankful you did. I assure you. What scripture anchors your soul during life's storms? What truth has God used to keep you from becoming bitter in difficult seasons?


Monday, May 11, 2026

 

The Secret Power of the Cross

The Secret Power Of The Cross Philippians 2:12-26

Phil 1: 15 Some indeed preach Christ from envy and rivalry, but others from good will. 16 The latter do it out of love, knowing that I am put here for the defense of the gospel. 17 The former proclaim Christ out of selfish ambition, not sincerely but thinking to afflict me in my imprisonment. 18 What then? Only that in every way, whether in pretense or in truth, Christ is proclaimed, and in that I rejoice.
 27 Only let your manner of life be worthy8  of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of you that you are standing firm in one spirit, with one mind striving side by side for the faith of the gospel, 28 and not frightened in anything by your opponents. This is a clear sign to them of their destruction, but of your salvation, and that from God. 
2: 1 So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, 2 complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. 3 Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

Pride, power and dominance have always been problematic in churches. 


1. The Problem of Contention
 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.
For all seek their own, not the things which are of Christ Jesus.
The threat of AI.        Depersonalisation in the technological age.  'Technological Isolationism'
Rationalism :  Empiricism :  Scientism:  Secularism.
Genesis 3:4-7 Then the serpent said to the woman, "You will not surely die.5 For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil." 6 So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate.7 Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves coverings.

2. The Continuing Power of the Cross
Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus,6 who, being in the form of God, did not consider it robbery to be equal with God,7 but made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men.8 And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross.
The Presence of The King
9 Therefore God also has highly exalted Him and given Him the name which is above every name,10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of those in heaven, and of those on earth, and of those under the earth,11 and that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.
Hold Thou Thy cross  Before my closing eyes   Shine through the gloom and  Point me to the skies
Heaven’s morning breaks  And earth’s vain shadows flee   In life in death O Lord Abide with me
The Continuing Power of The Cross
Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling;13 for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure.
3. The Compelling Witness To The Cross
among whom you shine as lights in the world,16 holding fast the word of life, so that I may rejoice in the day of Christ that I have not run in vain or labored in vain. 17 Yes, and if I am being poured out as a drink offering on the sacrifice and service of your faith, I am glad and rejoice with you all.18 For the same reason you also be glad and rejoice with me.
Aristotle’s Rhetoric  Ethos -Character  Pathos -Emotion  Logos -Logic
Entertainment  Education  Evangelism
Shalom Do all things without complaining and disputing,15 that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world,
4.The Connecting Empathy Of The Cross
19 But I trust in the Lord Jesus to send Timothy to you shortly, that I also may be encouraged when I know your state.20 For I have no one like-minded, who will sincerely care for your state…. 22 But you know his proven character, that as a son with his father he served with me in the gospel.
Liminality.  You and me together against the world. 
The Cross Produces Friendship and Fellowship in the Work
Yet I considered it necessary to send to you Epaphroditus, my brother, fellow worker, and fellow soldier, but your messenger and the one who ministered to my need; … and hold such men in esteem;30 because for the work of Christ he came close to death, not regarding his life, to supply what was lacking in your service toward me.


What a help Epaphroditus was, "My brother" - fellow-believers: as such born into the family of the Father. All His sons are brothers of each other. Alas, we don't always behave brotherly towards our fellow-Christians, as Galatians 6:10 says we ought "especially" to do.My "companion in labour" - fellow-worker: no distinction drawn between the foreman and the ordinary hand.

The apostle places his helper as on the same footing in this building operation. My "fellow-soldier" - fellow-campaigner in this "World War One" against all the allied forces of entrenched evil. Then Paul turns to simpler tasks performed by this helper.

"Your messenger" - the one sent by the Philippian church with the love and largesse of the believers there. He had doubtless, with gladness, accepted this commission. Lastly, "that ministered to my wants" - what were these wants, and how catered for, we do not know. What we do know is that he wore himself out in this "Temple ministry". As the passage ends, "to supply your lack of service toward me" - it doesn't mean that they were ignorant of his need, nor idle to supply it, but that, for some while, they had had no chance to do what their heart

longed to do.

All that distance over land and sea away, they had no one to take the supplies, until Epaphroditus had become available for the purpose. And now, Paul reports, his friend "was full of heaviness" - full of gladness that he was the better of his sickness, but so sorry because the news

of his grave illness had somehow reached Philippi, and he knew how grieved and anxious they would be.

Thus is revealed the deep affection of all to each.

How Paul loved Timothy and Epaphroditus; how they loved him. How Paul loved the Philippians; how they loved him. How Epaphroditus (and even Timothy, 20) loved the Philippians; how they loved him. See how these Christians loved one another!

are you a Christian? Here is the sign by which you may be sure: listen carefully: "We know that we have passed from death unto life, because we love . . ." I John 3:14. Do others know we are Christians? Here is the test: listen carefully: "By this shall all men know that ye are My disciples, if ye have love . . ." John 13:35.

"Served with me in the gospel.”

5. The Conscious Participation In the Work
so that I may rejoice in the day of Christ that I have not run in vain or labored in vain. 17 Yes, and if I am being poured out as a drink offering on the sacrifice and service of your faith, I am glad and rejoice with you all.18 For the same reason you also be glad and rejoice with me.   Therefore I sent him the more eagerly, that when you see him again you may rejoice, and I may be less sorrowful.
29 Receive him therefore in the Lord with all gladness, and hold such men in esteem;30 because for the work of Christ he came close to death, not regarding his life, to supply what was lacking in your service toward me.

"Served with me in the Gospel" (22). A fellow-slave, for so strong is the word. It is interesting to observe how anxious Paul seems to have been to hold both these men as equal partners with himself in the pursuit of the great advantage. By the way, the word "in" could easily be "unto", unto the Gospel: Plummer translates it "for the promotion of" - you get the same thing in 1:5. Here, then, is Timothy slaving away, alongside his father in GOD, sharing the hardships, the perils, the chances of the campaign.

Here is Epaphroditus pouring himself out as a sacrifice for the gospel.  


The Capacity For Joy in the Work  


I am glad and rejoice with you all. For the same reason you also be glad and rejoice with me.
The Joy of Fulfillment  John 1: 14 And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth.   Eph 3:17-19 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.
The Joy of Fellowship
The Joy of Fruitfulness  V. Frankl  A meaningful life.  John 12:24 "The hour has come that the Son of Man should be glorified. Most assuredly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the ground and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it produces much grain.25 He who loves his life will lose it, and he who hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life.26 If anyone serves Me, let him follow Me; and where I am, there My servant will be also. If anyone serves Me, him My Father will honor.


 

Grace

1 Peter 5:6-11 ESV - under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, 7 casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. 8 Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 9 Resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same kinds of suffering are being experienced by your brotherhood throughout the world. 10 And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you. 11 To him be the dominion forever and ever. Amen. God’s grace Saves You. He called you out of darkness. 1Peter2:9 He called you to eternal glory. By Grace God gave the gift of the Redeemer and the Redemption He bought you. God’s Grace Sustains You. He fixes you up. Where there are holes in your life He mends them. He Firms you up strengthening you in conflict bringing certainty in confusion. God’s Grace Is Sufficient For You. Because His is the dominion He empowers you in a hostile world to proclaim His Grace. God’s Grace Stabilises You In a recent Penrith football game as dew fell on the ground the field became slippery because the studs on the boots were t the deeper wet weather ones. Both teams continually lost the ball in the last ten minutes of the game. You need to be stabilised by the gospel of grace to make Him known. These five solas of the reformation conclude with all glory to the God of Grace.


 

Triune God by Bavinck

“Christianity does not rest upon the speculations of the mind or lofty philosophical ideals. It is grounded in the living and true God, who in his mercy makes himself known. He is not a distant principle nor a cold, detached force, but the triune God—Father, Son, and Holy Spirit—eternally glorious, personally active, and covenantally near to his people. In his perfect wisdom, the Father sends forth the Son. The Son, fully God and yet truly man, takes on our nature and accomplishes the work of redemption on the cross. There, justice and mercy meet. But the work of salvation does not end at Golgotha. The Holy Spirit, proceeding from the Father and the Son, takes what Christ has earned and applies it to us, giving life to the dead, opening blind eyes, and sealing us for the day of glory. Here is the comfort of the Christian faith: our salvation is the work of the whole triune God. It is not rooted in our merit or strength but in the eternal counsel, sovereign grace, and unchanging love of the one true God. The doctrine of the Trinity is not a burden to be endured, but the heartbeat of our hope, the source of our assurance, and the ground of our joy. Let us then bow in worship, and lift up our hearts in confidence, for the God who saves is the God who eternally is.” This has implications for apologetics: as EJ Mullins notes being born again is the apologetic that changes our hearts by God’s Sovereign electing grace. As C Van Til notes it is God’s sovereignty that provides the total renewal of the mind. Renewal implies that the presuppositions of true knowledge are already wired in by means of creation, but our Eason is marred by the fall and needs to be renewed as we know Christ. And here H Bavinck helps us know that the triune God is not only the One who renews our thinking, but as the Triune God He in His predetermined eternal covenant is the ground of all knowledge in all creation. There is no sense of truth or knowledge apart from this Triune God. The best apologetic is submission to the Triune God in all His works and His most important work of salvation.


Saturday, May 09, 2026

 

Hantavirus we are all on the ship of mortality.

Hantaviruses, named after a river in South Korea, are a family of more than twenty different viral species. Almost all are linked to infection by rodents, typically rats and mice, through dried urine and droppings.


One strain, however, known as the Andes virus, is thought to spread by human-to-human transmission, although rarely. In late 2018, an outbreak in Argentina was traced back to a single person who is thought to have unwittingly spread it to thirty-four confirmed cases, with eleven deaths.


As I’m sure you know, a cruise ship called the MV Hondius has made headlines this week because of another suspected hantavirus outbreak onboard that has killed three people so far and made several others very sick. Health officials in at least a dozen countries are now monitoring dozens of passengers who disembarked from the ship before the outbreak was fully understood; at least seven of them are Americans who returned home.


Should you be worried?


Since hantavirus is difficult for humans to transmit, one health official assured us, “There’s no need for concern over a global outbreak.” According to another, “There’s really no risk to anyone who is not on that ship.”


But in a metaphorical sense, we’re all on that “ship.” From Ted Turner’s death to Jeffrey Epstein’s possible suicide note to tornadoes that devastated southern Mississippi and a deadly volcano eruption, mortality is in the headlines today. As it will be again tomorrow.


Here’s why this news is not such bad news for believers.


The power of “positive affect treatment”


The Washington Post reported this week on a “promising new depression therapy” that “focuses on finding paths to joy.” The article notes that while depression treatments seek mostly to decrease negative emotions, a recent study found that increasing positive ones might be more effective.


“Positive affect treatment,” or PAT, is designed to help people find more meaning, connection, and joy in their lives. Patients are taught a variety of skills that boost mood, such as introducing positive activities into their lives and focusing on their enjoyment of these experiences. Clinical trials indicate that this can help people change the neural pathways in their brains to feel more positive emotions and less negative ones.


Let’s utilize this approach in a spiritual context.


Evil and suffering are typically considered the greatest impediments to faith in an all-knowing, all-powerful, all-loving God. But there are positive ways of reframing the issue. Suffering invites Christians to:

  • Believe in the God who “comforts us in all our affliction” (2 Corinthians 1:4a).

  • Seek to “comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God” (v. 4b).

  • Endeavor to remain “steadfast under trial,” knowing that we will then “receive the crown of life” (James 1:12).

  • Remember that “the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us” (Romans 8:18).

But there’s a very big catch.


“Grace to help in time of need”


In The Triumph of the Therapeutic: Uses of Faith after Freud, the American sociologist Philip Rieff showed that our culture has shifted from a society built on shared moral commitments to one focused on psychological self-actualization and personal happiness. In such a mindset, you are reading this article to feel better about yourself and your day, to find a word of hope and help as you navigate your life.


But what you and I need far more than encouraging words about God is a transforming daily experience with him.


I cannot overstate how important I think this is.


Every major religion in human history invites its followers to believe the teachings of its long-deceased founder and apply them to their lives in the therapeutic hope that they will profit in so doing.


By contrast, Christianity declares that our Founder is still as alive and active in our world today as when he launched our faith. We believe that he is right now praying for us (Romans 8:34), forgiving all we confess to him (Luke 5:20; cf. 1 John 1:9), speaking to us by his indwelling Spirit (John 16:13), and giving us “grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:16).


Now he wants us to trust our suffering to him as he trusted his suffering to his Father with the prayer, “Not as I will, but as you will” (Matthew 26:39). When we do, something extraordinary happens: We commit ourselves unconditionally to Jesus just as he commits himself unconditionally to us.


“The reason for our loving God”


Think about it: What can you do for the “King of kings and Lord of lords” (Revelation 19:16)? What do you have that he does not have? What can you do better than he can?


Your Father does not love you for what you can do for him—he loves you because you are his. He loves you when you disappoint him and frustrate him. He loves you when you don’t do what he wants you to do and do what he doesn’t want you to do.


Suffering presents us with a unique opportunity to love our Lord in precisely the same way.


Not for what he can do for us, but for who he is. Not for our good, but for his glory. When we trust Jesus even when he disappoints us and obey him even when we don’t want to, we reciprocate his unconditional love for us.


St. Bernard of Clairvaux (1009–1153) observed,


“The reason for our loving God is God.”


Why do you love God today?


Friday, May 08, 2026

 

Sitting down to a feast of Consequences

Philippians 3 


Philippians 3:13-21 ESV

Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, [14] I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. [15] Let those of us who are mature think this way, and if in anything you think otherwise, God will reveal that also to you. [16] Only let us hold true to what we have attained. [17] Brothers, join in imitating me, and keep your eyes on those who walk according to the example you have in us. [18] For many, of whom I have often told you and now tell you even with tears, walk as enemies of the cross of Christ. [19] Their end is destruction, their god is their belly, and they glory in their shame, with minds set on earthly things. [20] But our citizenship is in heaven, and from it we await a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, [21] who will transform our lowly body to be like his glorious body, by the power that enables him even to subject all things to himself.



“What lies in our power to do, lies in our power not to do.” Aristotle

 

“If you don’t make up your mind, then your unmade mind will unmake you.” Author and missionary E. Stanley Jones

 

“In the end, the choices we make will make us.” Unknown source 

 

“What we think or what we know or what we believe is in the end of little consequence. The only thing of consequence is what we do.” English writer John Ruskin

 

“It is easy to dodge our responsibilities, but we cannot dodge the consequences of dodging our responsibilities.” English banker Josiah Stamp


A Simple Plan, a 1998 movie starring Bill Paxton and Billy Bob Thornton, reminds us of the inevitable consequences of our actions. Small-town feed-store accountant, Hank Mitchell (played by Bill Paxton) along with two of his beer-guzzling buddies (one of them played by Billy Bob Thornton) stumble onto a $4 million dollar jackpot when they discover a bag of money in a crashed propeller plane buried in the snowy serenity of a Midwestern wilderness. The moment they discover the cash, they know it must be dirty money. But what to do?


They know what they should do, but greed immediately begins to stir their

imaginations. Mitchell decides they will hide the money until spring. At that point, if no one has come looking for the money, the three of them will divide it up. All they have to do is to remain quiet until then.


But from the beginning, a comedy of errors sucks them deeper and deeper into the crime cycle. Distrust, dissention, and disaster stalk them each step of the way. The bazaar ending reminds us of this truth: crime will always cost more than it pays.


When I saw this movie I was haunted by the developing dishonesty of even the one who should have been the hero. As I contemplated my feeling of unease, I finally understood why I felt so uncomfortable. If Hank Mitchell could be sucked into such a duplicitous disaster, maybe I could be, too!


This movie provides a stunning reminder of the truth writer Robert Louis Stevenson once penned: “Everybody soon or late sits down to a banquet of consequences.”




GETTING THE 

RIGHT CONSEQUENCES


  • As you make your decisions this week, LOOK BACK. What experiences in the past will help you make the wisest decision in the present?
  • As you make your decisions this week, LOOK AROUND. Given the circumstances of your life right now, what is the wise thing to do?
  • As you make your decisions this week, LOOK FORWARD. What will be the result of this decision? How will it affect you? How will it affect those around you? Will it limit your future plans or facilitate them? 

SURPRISING CONSEQUENCES


  • A boy of 15 approached his mother to ask permission to join the British navy. His brother had already enlisted, and he simply wanted to follow in his brother’s footsteps. But his widowed mother remonstrated and begged the boy to stay at home instead of enlisting. He chose to follow his mother’s request. A few years later this young man answered the call to lead the battle against the British. His name was George Washington.
  • A young college student at Claremont Men’s College near Los Angeles was determining his class schedule for his freshman year. He was a political-science major, but he needed an elective to fill out his schedule. He chose as his elective course “improvisational theater.” He was hooked. That young man became famous actor Robin Williams.


Little choices. Yes, they probably seemed to be at the time, but these little choices put these individuals on trajectories that shaped their future lives. And had the choices not been made, their future lives would have been far different. Every choice we make every day shapes our lives by creating a new set of circumstances in which future choices must be made. And sometimes our choices have surprising consequences. 

TWO THOUGHTS

“When you do the things you need to do when you need to do them, the time will come when you can do the things you want to do when you want to do them.” Motivational speaker Zig Ziglar

 

“Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things, I am tempted to think there are no little things.” American author Bruce Barton 


 

For The Church Resources


 

The pastoral virtue of avoidance Baptist Press May 7 2026

The pastoral virtue of avoidance

By Daniel BouchocZach Hollifield, posted May 7, 2026 
   


At least seven times in the pastoral epistles, Paul directly charges Timothy and Titus to “avoid” and to “have nothing to do with” ideas and people who pose a threat to their flock. This is jarring since one of the main purposes for these letters is to encourage Timothy and Titus to engage false teaching and teachers. Yet here is where the paradox emerges: Paul teaches a pastoral virtue of avoidance—showing that sometimes the wisest form of engagement is careful restraint.

So, what is going on here? Given that Paul clearly wants false teaching and teachers dealt with and also wants these pastors to avoid certain discourse and people, the question arises: What is Paul prohibiting here and what does it mean for pastors today?

Why Paul Commands Avoidance

Paul applies this virtue to two broad categories: words and people. Five of the seven times Paul commands Timothy and Titus to “avoid/having nothing to do with,” it is regarding “irreverent silly myths” (1 Tim. 4:7), “irreverent babble” (1 Tim. 6:202 Tim. 2:16), “foolish [ignorant] controversies” (2 Tim. 2:23Titus 3:9). In the two other instances, he tells them to avoid or have nothing to do with certain people (2 Tim. 3:5Titus 3:10). But what is it they are not to engage in?

It is difficult to come up with any real difference between myths, babble, and controversies—especially when you consider that in each place Paul attaches a similar negative adjective such as “foolish,” “silly,” “irreverent,” “ignorant.” In each case, Paul has in mind a certain kind of speech that Timothy and Titus are not to engage in. The specifics of the speech might differ case by case, but they are all of a similar pointless, ungodly, and muddled nature which renders it unworthy of these pastors’ time and attention. But why does Paul want them to avoid it?

This point is clearer as Paul gives reasoning for his command of avoidance:

  • 1 Timothy 4:7 – Avoid irreverent, silly myths because “godliness is of value in every way.”
  • 1 Timothy 6:20–21 – Avoid irreverent babble and contradictions because “by professing it some have swerved from the faith.”
  • 2 Timothy 2:23 – Avoid foolish ignorant controversies because “you know that they breed quarreling and the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone.”
  • 2 Timothy 3:5–7 – Avoid the ungodly people because “among them are those who creep into households and capture weak women, burdened by sins, and led astray by various passions, always learning and never able to arrive at a knowledge of the truth.”
  • Titus 3:9 – Avoid foolish controversies, genealogies, dissensions, and quarrels about the law “because they are unprofitable and worthless.”
  • Titus 3:10 – Avoid those who stir up divisions; “knowing that such a person is warped and sinful; he is already condemned.”
  • 2 Timothy 2:16–18 – Avoid irreverent babble because “it will lead people into more and more ungodliness, and their talk will spread like gangrene.”

In 2 Timothy 2:16–18, Paul gives the most insightful reasoning. Here we get the content of the “babble”: The resurrection has already happened. Paul wants Timothy to avoid this idea because it spreads like gangrene, leads “people into more and more ungodliness,” and upsets their faith. The principle is that sometimes the way to stop a disease from spreading is to avoid the disease rather than fight it head-on. It’s a virus rather than a cancer.

This is somewhat bewildering as we think about the pastor’s role to protect the flock from “fierce wolves” who will not “spare the flock” (Acts 20:28–29). It is also contrary to what most of us feel internally and would amount to what some would deem an abdication of our responsibility as leaders. So, what are pastors today supposed to take from these commands?

Biblical Avoidance

The outworking of this command will differ depending on the immediate context we pastor in. Here are six principles and suggestions that arise from this virtue that apply universally (in no particular order).

1. AVOIDING DOESN’T MEAN PASSIVITY (2 TIM. 2:23, 25).

Given that Paul wants Timothy and Titus to engage certain false teaching and teachers, it seems that he has a kind of refusal to be “drawn in” in mind. The avoidance he commands does involve interaction and providing reasons, but it stops short of aggression, lashing out, fighting, “sinking to the level,” or becoming obsessed with defeating them. We must avoid without neglecting to protect.

2. AVOIDING MEANS GIVING YOUR TIME TO WHAT IS PROFITABLE.

In order to avoid, you need to know what does or does not need time and attention. Pastors should be devoted to cultivating godliness rather than tearing down the ungodliness of others. Rather than using most of our limited time to engage with “irreverent babble,” we ought to focus on worthwhile things (Phil. 4:8).

3. AVOIDING DOESN’T MEAN BEING UNINFORMED.

The more informed you are, the more you are able to know what proportion of time to give or not give certain ideas. Pastors, by nature, are more informed than the flock. They understand doctrine, implications of certain ideas, when cultural issues shift from tier 3 to tier 2, and so on. Through training and the Spirit’s guidance, they discern what and when to avoid.

4. GENTLY AND FIRMLY REMOVE THOSE WHO ARE BREEDING QUARRELS IN THE CHURCH.

Warn them once, then twice, then remove them from the fellowship of your body, having nothing to do with them until they repent (Titus 3:10). Rather than tolerance, avoidance may look like an active decision to “cut out” infected tissue so that it does not spoil the rest of the body (2 Tim. 2:16–17).

5. DON’T GET SUCKED INTO THE PSEUDO-WORLD OF SOCIAL MEDIA.

Social media is truly an endless chasm of debating ideas and worldviews. Think of it as a video game server that is constantly live and filled with everyone from the entire world. You could literally spend all your time there. Don’t. Join the server in appropriate proportions and be strategic as to how you engage. Spend most of your time and energy logged in to the server of your immediate context.

6. FOR A PASTOR TO DO ALL OF THIS, HE MUST BE SOBER-MINDED.

A quarrelsome man has lost his senses. He feels threatened and offended. He is annoyed and angry. He bites the bait of the fool. He can’t walk away or let the issue rest. He can’t simply say, “No more,” but has to win and get the upper hand. Everything is a “hill to die on” to him. So, in time, he will die on every hill, and it will be for the wrong things. Sober-mindedness allows a pastor to discern when engage, when to step back, and when to protect the flock without overacting.

In a day and culture where many assume the virtuous thing to do is always to enter fully into every debate and squabble, Paul’s pastoral virtue of avoidance forces us to ask ourselves, “Is this something I should be engaging with? If so, how, and to what extent?” Because pastoral malpractice is not only possible by cowardly holding back, but by impassioned rushing in as well.

This article originally appeared at For the Church.

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